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The Mystery Method: The Foolproof Way to Get Any Woman You Want Into Bed

Quick. You're a single guy. You're looking – because aren't all single guys "looking" – whatever that means. A beautiful woman sits next to you at the bar. The sweat pouring out of your palms is evidence of your success rate when approaching women. But you've learned a few tricks of the trade – a quick scan of her hand reveals no suspicious rings, and there is no visible "date", not even a girlfriend. What do you do? What do you say? Is your shirt wrinkled? Is she going to stare at your bald spot? Should you wipe the thin line of sweat off your brow before you try to talk to her? Is your zipper down? What if she rejects you?

If your anxiety level is through the roof just reading this, you may be the ideal customer for one Mr. Erik von Markovik, the progenitor of something called the Mystery Method. This method is, for lack of a better word, a complex mystery in its own right – a method of approaching and engaging women in order to "pick them up". The Mystery Method is chock full of terms like "negs" and "9+" and "routine". In the situation above, for instance, the man should be getting his "set" ready the instant he sees a woman, or "hit".

The Mystery Method and The Seduction Community

To fully understand the Mystery Method, hereafter referred to as simply The Method, you have to understand the history of something called "the seduction community". Yes, this moniker should give you a creepy feeling – it does me – but even scarier is the notion that you yourself may have fallen victim to its member's dogmatic approach to dating and relationships. The seduction community, which plays out mostly via newsgroups like alt.seduction.fast or websites such as www.TheMysteryMethod.com, is what it sounds like: a group of guys (mostly guys – more on that later) sharing experiences, training and helping one another in the art of modern "seduction". This group has recently seen all kinds of change in their makeup and leadership. The figure at the forefront of the Method, Mystery (also known as Erik von Markovik) has formed his own company and is attempting to patent the Method. This has put up a wall between he and the rest of his (rather closeknit) group of seductives – specifically, guys like Neil Strauss and the just-as-mysterious Mr. M are concerned that their own piece of the training business might be in jeopardy if Mr. von Markovik successfully patents the Method. The questions these minions of Mystery are asking are important ones.

Did Erick von Markovik Invent the Method?

Did Erik von Markovik truly "invent" his Method? How much of it was simply gathered from sources or any of the myriad books already written on the topic of seduction? If Markovik has no claim to the Method, then the various operations of his former "students" are safe. The down side? If these operations are safe , women everywhere are going to have a hard time going out. The Method, even if occasionally enlightened, is an overall bust in terms of its impact on gender relations. The Method elevates and even rewards behaviors which need serious modifying, traits in men which turn women off, and thinking that relegates women to a lower class. At the end of the day, all the Method accomplishes is in fact what it sets out to accomplish: the subjugation of an entire gender for the purpose of sexual possession.

To some guys that might sound like a positive review. Here's a quote straight from the Mystery Method website: "It's based on female psychology, so it works regardless of your looks or money." This is appealing to many men: the notion that they can tap into a woman's brain and determine the proper moves, determine exactly what to say to attract her regardless of who you are, regardless of your cleanliness or attractiveness, this fantasy that an old slob of a man can easily bed a 10+ supermodel. If you smell a strong whiff of sexism, it is because you're smelling sexism plain and simple. Why else has advice for men looking to court women existed since, well, the days of the Court? To entice men to believe that there is some method of attracting and seducing women that exists which is sure-fire, a magic button we can touch, a program of mild self-deprecation and intense posturing that is irresistible to all women. This belief is sexist all by itself – no defense is necessary since no defense will wash the statement clean of its nature. You will hear members of the seduction community say they disagree with my statement, that these programs do not offer a monolithic One Way or skeleton key to the female brain. The problem is, they're wrong – many quotes from various PUAs (pick up artists) in the seduction scene prove that this kind of belief, this notion that women are both Knowable and Containable, this placement of women's status somewhere just below that of the laboratory chimpanzee (who at least is made partially aware of his status as test subject) – that these actions are based in a sexist and single-minded belief that all women are the same, drooling for masculine attention, waiting for the slightest insult to drive them into a man's arms.

The Mystery Method Equation

Regardless of my opinion, I would be remiss if I didn't share with you some facets of the Method itself. The basic idea can be represented in an equation.

Attraction + Comfort = Seduction

This simple equation can be further broken down into sections, which can themselves be further broken down, etc. In fact, subtle additions and retractions (mostly additions) are being made constantly at the seduction scene's various web homes, and members proudly display their "names" (Mr. Wolf? Seducto?) next to alterations they've suggested – should anyone dare forget the contribution.

Attract, Comfort, and Seduce

Let's get a better understanding of the Method. Remember the equation above? The idea goes like this: To enter into a sexual relationship with a woman, the man must first ATTRACT her, then build COMFORT before finally SEDUCING her. Attract, Comfort, and Seduce are the three elements of the Method, and each of those is usually seen in further divisions; the ATTRACT phase is divided into Attract 1 (or A1): Opening; Attract 2 (or A2) Attracting; and Attract 3 (or A3) Qualifying. An opening is (obviously) the first minute or so of your encounter with a woman, when a student of the Method begins what is called his "set", or his entire encounter with a woman planned down to every possible response. Attracting and Qualifying are more words from the seduction scene, basically referring to a further familiarity-making with the woman. Qualifying is most interesting, as this is the point at which a man convinces a woman she has earned his interest. Students are told to "let the woman win you over" or "let the woman attract you" – unfortunately, the woman has been all but removed from the equation.

As for the Comfort stage – here is how it is laid out at a popular seduction scene site: "Comfort is the missing ingredient that allows you to convert mutual attraction into sex." The theory of followers of the Method is that Comfort somehow changes a woman from her expected attitude of "I want him but I don't know him --" into just plain "I want him". Never mind that this theory implies a lack of attraction (why assume that the woman doesn't want you?) it again takes equality out of the picture, asserting the male as the agent of attraction and removing all input from the female. Special warnings are made to students not to spend "too much time with Comfort" as it can turn you into a "pussy" in the eyes of your "hit".

The Method Kino

The final stage, seduction, is what the game is all about. We're talking about what the Method calls "kino" (slang for physical contact), the purported goal of the entire Method operation. The Method instructs a man to make any sexual move feel "natural", often giving the example of the removal of a brassiere. In a man's mind, the removal of a bra is a precursor to sex – and the Method teaches that women don't want to think of sex in terms of "steps". Making the removal of the woman's bra appear "natural" removes the stigma of "step one, bra removal – step two, hand on her thigh" etc. The Method acknowledges that seduction and quick sexual encounters can lead to awkward moments – say your Method works and a woman wants to be you immediately. What do you do if you have to wait in line to get a hotel room? Or what if the woman lives across town and there's no way you can take her home without it being obvious? The Method suggests distractions. Talk about anything, cry, scream, laugh, do what you have to do but always ASSUME the woman is going home with you. The Method teaches you to take the woman's hand, lead her to your car, and drive to your apartment, distracting her the entire way with conversation or whatever it takes. The predator aspect of this theory alone is enough to put me off my lunch. This distraction method, it seems, would work wonders for all kinds of kidnappers and child molestors. Nevertheless, thousands of men swear by the Method.

One thing I've noticed about all the Method literature (be it the eBook, the DVD material, or material found online) it is this strange acknowledgement that men might misuse or abuse the Method itself. Towards the end of most lessons you will find the caveat: NO means NO, usually backed up with material like this, from one member of the seduction scene's personal website: "Even when it doesn't mean No to the woman who said it . . . it will mean No to you." The gist of this is Even though no woman can resist you and you are a powerful stud with magnetic charm and sparkling white teeth, the woman still has her basic civil rights. This kind of admission points out the problem with the system more than any direct evidence you could pull from the literature itself – when men have to be reminded that women occasionally don't want to have sex with them, we have a problem.

The Method Negative Qualifiers

The most disturbing thing about the Method is the parts of it that probably work. The most commonly known facet of the Method is the "neg" or "negative qualifiers". The theory of the neg goes something like this – by gently putting an attractive woman down, you can convince her that you aren't flirting with her, and that's how woman really want to be flirted with. An example is – "We would be horrible together" or "We could never be friends". As noted by followers of the Method, proper use of the neg can lead to the piquing of a woman's interest. I won't go so far as to say it is foolproof, but this manipulative negativity is certainly not going to get you much farther than the front door.

Seduction Community Terms

As a final note, I'd like to share some slang from the seduction scene, to prove further that this is a Method of seducing women which requires men to think less of them. To think of them as "hits", as "marks". Women's friends are reduced to labels like "bitch shield" or any number of other disturbing expletives. The Method, sexist and derogatory, is a dangerous influence.

A selection of Seduction Community terms:

101 – "hot and cold", treating a woman with respect followed by disrespect
DDB – "doggy dinner bowl", the look on a woman's face when she is most vulnerable
SHB – "super hot babe", according to the Seduction Community, she must rate a 10+
VC – "victim chick", a girl with lots of baggage who wants to make men rescue her
KC – "kiss close", this is "closing" a deal with a woman via a "kiss"
DHV – "display of high value", a story or action which raises your "value" to a woman

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