What Women Want
What Women Want in a Man
It is the age-old question that still bothers men the world around — what do women want?
We think if we could figure out that one thing that women want (and give it to them) that women would find us irresistible. More than that, we think that if we could find out “what women want,” we could keep women from being so mad at us all the time.
Unfortunately, no one has ever discovered that one thing that women want. Rather than try to figure out what specific thing it is that all women want, follow these rules to figure out how to give your woman what she wants .
A Sounding Board
Too often, problems between men and women arise because of bad communication. Men and women have an easy time talking to one another for the most part. We put up with their long, boring stories and they put up with our crazy sound effects and monosyllabic answers. When men and women really butt heads regarding communication is when a women has a problem.
As men, our first instinct when presented with a problem is to solve it. That’s how our minds work. If I have a flat tire and I have to be at work in ten minutes or I’ll be fired, my brain sets out to solve the problems and take care of everything in plenty of time to get to work. However, if this same set of problems happened to my girlfriend, and I were to “take over” and start fixing everything, I’d be way off the mark.
Women want to talk about problems and have a partner who listens and cares rather than a partner who jumps into action to save the day. The next time your woman has a problem, tell her “I’m sorry. That must really be hard.” rather than jumping up to fix her problem and be her hero. You may be surprised by her response.
Women want partners to act as sounding boards, to offer sympathy, and to hold their hand while they cry. (See also: How to Talk to Women.)
Chocolate
Okay, so not every woman loves chocolate. It is an unfair stereotype, like the one that says that all men like college football. In any event, let it be said that not all women love chocolate.
Still — understand that women have a need to be treated once in a while. We men can get by on beer and takeout pizza 365 days a year, but every now and then a woman is going to want to pamper herself with a special treat. For some women, this comes in the form of chocolate. And chocolate has chemicals in it that make us feel warm and fuzzy inside, so naturally chocolate is first on the list of women’s treat. But your special lady friend may prefer French food, or an expensive liquor, or even a mani-pedi at the salon. Whatever the treat, understand that she has a deep-seated need to enjoy it. And pass the chocolate.
Equality
Ask a woman about equality and you’re likely to hear a familiar statistic — 88 cents on the dollar. That’s how much women make per dollar of male earnings even in this day and age, a time when gender equality seems like a given. Yes, women have the right to vote, and yes, women can do anything in this society that men can do. Unfortunately, the one thing they can’t do is earn the same money men earn, dollar for dollar.
Women want to feel like an equal partner. It is rare to find a woman these days who really wants to be a housewife. Women are after true equality, which in today’s world means wage equity.
So encourage your girlfriend to earn an advanced degree, let her work extra long hours in her field to prove herself, and support and encourage her career as much as she does for yours. Let’s face it — her job is harder, if only because she has to work twice as hard for a lower wage than a man.
A Caring Sexual Partner – What Women Want in Bed
No matter what you hear, don’t believe that women are looking for well-endowed men. The truth is, most men are carrying pretty much the same equipment, and women know that. No, women don’t want the best equipped sexual partner, they want a partner that is caring in the bedroom.
This is not to say that all women want a gentle or slow sexual partner in bed. Women are independent creatures with different desires — but the thing that binds all of their sexual desire together is a need for a partner that listens, that pays attention to her body, and that cares as much about her sexual fulfillment as his own.
This means that you should be willing to do as much for her in the bedroom as she does for you. Don’t think of your own sexual satisfaction and roll over and go to bed — talk to your girlfriend and make sure she is satisfied with your sex life.
You don’t have to be Don Juan in the bedroom, though it probably helps. All you really need is a caring heart and a little patience.
Babies
That old joke about the “biological clock” is no joke. At a certain age, women feel the “baby bug”. This age is different from one woman to the next, but it generally happens around the age of 30 or 35. Why is this?
Doctors tell us that after the age of 35, pregnancy becomes more difficult. Women are hearing the ticking of their biological clocks younger and younger these days, as medical research is proving time and again that giving birth before you’re 30 is ideal.
Not every woman wants kid, but most of them have a deep-seated desire to produce offspring. This is built in to their brains, as much as the details of a 4-3 defense are built into ours. If you want to make your woman happy, build a life with her that can support her children. She’ll love you for the rest of your life.
If you can master these five aspects of what women want in a relationship, you’ll be far more likely to have a successful relationship with a woman. The truth is, women are complex creatures (just like men) who all want different things. Understanding women’s needs (for a caring emotional partner, for equal pay, and for a little chocolate now and then) can turn any insensitive jerk into a chick magnet.
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