Attracting Women
Attracting Women
Attracting women is far from an exact science. Men have never understood women and nothing’s really changed in the last few centuries to make attracting women any easier.
We can’t teach you the power of “attracting women made easy”, but we can go over some things that seem to work and some things that never work when it comes to making women feel attracted to you. (You can also read our article about how to attract women online for more information.)
Tips That Don’t Work
There are so many things that men do in their attempts at attracting women that don’t work, it would be much easier to just teach what does work.
Here are some tactics that men take in an attempt to attract women that should never be used. These tips have never worked in the history of attraction and will just make you look like a loser.
1. Fighting
You’ve seen guys get in bar fights to impress a woman, right? This never works. Women may be drawn to strong men who can protect them, but fighting in a public place just to jockey for a woman’s attraction will be seen as stupid and violent. Don’t try it.
2. Lying
Sometimes a lie told at the right time can earn you a place in a woman’s affections. Unfortunately, women are smarter than men, and they always figure out when we’re lying. Don’t tell a woman you’re talking to that you’re a Navy SEAL if you’re not, and don’t tell a woman that you don’t have a wife if you don’t. Women look for honesty in men the way men look for women with big breasts.
3. The Hard Sell
Attempting to date a woman by convincing her that she should date you is a lame and nearly always unsuccessful tactic. Men who use the “hard sell” on women (as in “I’m smart, I’m attractive, I’ve got a good job . . . why won’t you go out with me?”) immediately lose status and appear pathetic. Women don’t respond to a hard sell anywhere else in life, and it doesn’t work when you’re flirting either.
4. Boasting
Even if you do own a yacht or a Fortune 500 company or something, bragging about it will give you the stink of arrogance. There’s very little that is less sexy to a woman than a man’s arrogance. You shouldn’t brag to a woman to get her to be attracted to you–not only does it never work, it can also poison other people’s opinions of you as well.
5. Grand Romantic Gestures
Even if you see a guy in a movie write a song for a girl and play it for her in front of the whole classroom, and even if that girl in that movie falls in love with the nerdy guitar player, you should never ever use a grand romantic gesture to win a woman’s heart. Romance (like writing a song for a woman) comes later in a relationship, when you know more about each other. Making some grand gesture to win a woman’s favor is jumping the gun. Have some patience, and save the grand gestures for proposals of marriage.
Tips That Do Work
1. The Snub
Women invented the snub, but men have perfected it. Women never see it coming. What’s “The Snub?”
If you think a woman is attracted to you a little but you haven’t quite sealed the deal, begin ignoring her. Nothing rude, and nothing obvious. Let her phone calls ring a few times before you pick it up, or just don’t pick them up at all. Avoid places where the two of you see each other.
The key to The Snub is its length. Never snub for more than you need to. Usually, if a woman is interested in you and you’re snubbing her, it only takes a day or two for The Snub to work. You’ll know it works when one of her friends asks if you’re okay, or if the woman shows up at your door unannounced. Works every time.
2. Friendship
Good old-fashioned friendship with a woman is a great way to increase her attraction to you. Most women want to be “friends first” with their future boyfriends, so being a good friend to a woman you’re into is a good way to be her future beau.
Don’t take it too far. If you become her “best friend”, she’ll put you in the friend zone and you’ll never see her bed sheets. Friendship as a way to increase attraction is a delicate art.
3. Self-improvement
Guys, you have to make yourself better before a woman will notice you. Get a little (natural) suntan, work on your biceps, head to the dentist to get your teeth whitened, whatever it takes.
Improving your physical appearance will make you stand out to a woman who may have never noticed you before.
4. “Game”
I’m no expert at seduction, but I know that guys with “game” seem to have no problem attracting women. These guys know exactly how to dress, how to talk, and how to date any woman in the world they want.
Want to increase your game? Read seduction books. You can find them by the bushel at your local bookstore and online. There are even some eBooks that provide good advice on stepping up your game.
5. Honesty
All other suggestions aside, women are attracted most to an honest man. If a girl is your friend, and you’re attempting to make her become attracted to you, you may want to just let her know. No big gesture, no demands, just the honest truth. You’ll be surprise how far a simple honest admission of attraction can go.
There’s no magic trick to increasing women’s attraction. Avoid the stuff that doesn’t work and redouble your successful attempts. You will soon be attracting women like a discount shoe store.
No related posts.
Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.
This entry was posted on Saturday, May 22nd, 2010 at 5:03 pm and is filed under Attraction, Women. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.