First of all, gay bars are- -just that- -gay bars. There may be a Small handful of straight guys floating around, but it’s Very unlikely. At the bars I frequent, I have rarely seen any straight boys around.

Given the low odds of a straight guy and girl meeting up in a gay bar, I can say with much certainty that your average gay man would feel rather offended to see a heterosexual pair flirting it up. This also applies to being hit on by women. We go to gay bars to get Away from heterosexuality. We have to put up with it everywhere else; on the TV, in magazines, on the internet; Hell, I’ve even seen a guy getting to ‘second base’ out on the streets! For most of us, gay bars are a sanctuary where we can be with those like us.

And where do you get your “50%” idea? I think you should go back to elementary school and relearn probabilities. 50% means that for every two people in the bar, one of them is gay and one is straight. At a gay bar? Are you bonkers? In my experience (based on hitting on or being hit on by others), there’s a very small margin of straight boys at a gay bar, well below 5%. It’s rare that I even get into the awkward situation of a guy professing that he’s straight.

Finally, just the idea in general that you can “tell” whether or not somebody is gay just by talking to them for a few minutes. Maybe where you live gays talk with a lisp and say “girl”, but from my experience most gay guys are just guys that like guys. I don’t drop the word fabulous in ever sentence, I don’t talk like a woman in a man’s body. And most gays I know are the same way. I’ve known people for years that didn’t even know I was gay. I didn’t hide it, there just isn’t any evidence in everyday life.

So, in short, you need to get your facts straight and stop peddling misinformation to your readers. How about you research your subject, or even talk to somebody that knows about it before posting something about it?

Stick to the straight or ‘gay friendly’ dance establishments if you are a woman on the hunt for a man. A gay bar is one of the few places where gay people can feel free to express themselves honestly and all that pent up energy held back by being forced to “act straight” needs to be released. A straight girl should hit a straight bar – her chances of getting lucky are much better. While many gay people don’t care, some feel that their gay bar is diminished by influx of straight people. Forget about bringing straight males to a male dominated gay pickup bar, it is a recipe for disaster if they are not extremely open minded (slightly gay).