How to Do a Cold Reading
How to Do a Cold Reading – Tips and Techniques
Ever wished you had a secret way of building strong rapport with a person? It would be helpful in a flirting or dating situation to be able to quickly analyze a person, alter your behavior or your speech, and know that you made the right move. If you had this skill there’d be no more awkward pauses or difficult rejections to deal with . . . at very least you’d be making new friends.
Welcome to your new mojo — it is called “Cold Reading”, and it basically allows you (the aspiring PUA) to build instant rapport with anyone you meet whether you are looking for a friend, a lover, or a new employer.
What Is a Cold Reading?
A cold reading is a series of steps you can take almost instantly to alter your tactics and get the girl of your dreams. Sounds like another one of these get-laid-quick schemes that won’t work, but the science backing up the Cold Reading is strong — those that came up with the idea of the cold reading based it all in tactics used for years by salesmen, psychologists, interrogators, psychics, and other people who need to build rapport to earn their bread and butter.
Methods of building rapport using a cold reading have names like Mirroring and Matching, Common Ground, Milton Model, etc. The method may sound complicated but at its heart is very simple.
Some Cold Reading Techniques and Examples
The aforementioned Mirroring and Matching is an interesting and almost always successful method of building rapport through a cold reading. You see a beautiful woman across the room, you walk over to her, you start to mirror her attitudes and actions (not in an obvious way) or even timing your breathing to that woman’s own breathing. The idea is that your matching of her body movements will make her instantly more comfortable with you. Will it work every time? No way, but trust me when I say that these kinds of reading techniques not only get your foot in the door, they calm you down as though you were in a meditative state, and a calm guy is always a more attractive guy.
Then there is the use of ambiguities–sociologists tell us that using ambiguous statements builds rapport because it makes you sound more alike to the woman you’re flirting with. If the idea is to make yourself comfortable to a woman, using ambiguous statements about your feelings, your likes and dislikes, etc will make it easier for her to think you agree with her. You may use this method already without knowing it–saying terse and playful things to a woman you’ve just met (my old standard is “You and I wouldn’t get along very well”) is a kind of ambiguity read.
The last little trick of cold reading I’ll share is something called “leading”. You use generalized statements and slightly leading questions to gain knowledge about a girl–if you’re a good listener, you can pick up on details to use against her later, to “prove” that you were listening and to make it seem like you bonded in a very short amount of time.
A leading question may be something like this–”Your friends think you party a little too much.” Say this to a girl at the right time, and react based on her response. She’s likely to say something like “Oh my God you’re right they do I know maybe I should quit going out all the time blah blah blah”–now you have some insight into her character, you’ve learned something about her, and you didn’t have to ask one lame up front question. If one leading question doesn’t do the trick or elicits a dull or negative response, just alter the question to create another lead. “What I meant was that if you’re like me, you probably have some problems with your friends”–this is a dumb lead, because it is a bit obvious that you’re covering your ass, but a dumb girl will eat it up.
See also:
- How to Use Palm Reading to Pick Up Girls
- Pick Up Artists
- How to Talk to Girls
- How to Get Girls to Like You
- How to Pick Up Girls at Bars
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Cold reading has always astonished folks. And what’s not to be very impressed about? Even if the person can’t genuinely read your mind as he might read words in a book, there’s still something indisputably astonishing about a individual who can read you immediately.