Bantering With Women
Bantering With Women, Flirting with Girls
Do an internet search for “How to Banter with Women,” and you’ll find a whole slew of information to read. But be careful. Though the so-called “Seduction Community” can provide plenty of valuable information on how to seduce a woman, much of it is less about the connection you’re making, and more about the manipulation you’re employing. Bantering with women, at its core, is a positive way of building connection with a woman on a fun, flirtatious level.
What is Bantering?
Chances are, you’ve witnessed bantering between men and women, but haven’t experienced it firsthand. Here’s how it usually goes: a man and woman are interacting when suddenly, the man says something that at first seems inappropriate, maybe even crude. Paradoxically, the woman reacts positively, and becomes even more engaged in the interaction. There’s an energy between them. This playful, back-and-forth talk is known as banter, and it can serve as an effective way of igniting a conversation, and developing attraction between two people.
Some experts in the Seduction Community will treat banter as a means of effectively getting a woman into bed. While banter may lead to physical intimacy, this should never be an expectation. This is because bantering with women is first and foremost a spontaneous act. When attempting banter, you must be open to all outcomes and adapt as the conversation progresses. Part of the reason men struggle with banter is that it requires them to embrace their playful, child-like qualities—characteristics that, for some, have been suppressed by years of conditioning. Bantering with women requires full awareness and moment-to-moment improvisation, and one of the best ways to re-embody a spirit of play for yourself is by actually taking improvisation classes.
Bantering and Flirting with Girls for Beginners
There are a couple components to bantering with women that beginners can keep in mind. To start, you can learn “Banter lines,” one-line sentences that can help spark up conversation, or get an interesting reaction from the women you’re interacting with. You can find lists of banter lines on the Internet, and when you’re starting out, it helps to memorize lines and keep them handy when you’re interacting with women. An example of a banter line is saying, “You need to stop flirting with me,” when the woman you’re with is clearly not flirting with you.
“Busting on Women” is another important component to banter. When you’re busting on a women, you’re essentially giving her an insult, such as “Your behavior is completely unacceptable,” but in a playful, non-serious way, and often delivered with a sly grin. This can effectively get a rise out of the woman you’re interacting with, and help to build a tension and create attraction.
A good way to get better at bantering, too, is by watching men who are natural at it. You can do this in person, or you can observe characters in movies. There are many romantic comedies that display excellent examples of bantering with women. Check out classics like When Harry Met Sally or newer movies like Up In The Air with George Clooney.
See also:
- How to Flirt
- How to Talk to Women
- How to Talk to Girls
- How to Get Girls to Like You
- How to Get a Girl to Like You
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