David DeAngelo Kiss Test

David DeAngelo on Kissing a Woman

The David DeAngelo kiss test is a famous dating tip given on the David DeAngelo website. It’s a suggestion to help men avoid the dating pitfalls of trying to get that first kiss, especially that awkward moment when a woman rejects your attempts to kiss her.

You don’t have to worry for hours about when you should start kissing, or have those awkward pauses or drifting thoughts at the end of the night when you’re trying to decide whether to make your move.

First Kisses – David DeAngelo Dating Advice

A lot of men find themselves in this awkward moment on the first date, when they can’t figure out when to kiss the woman and how to kiss the woman. This comes from most men’s basic inability to read a woman’s body language. She might be sending out all kinds of signals that she’s into us or not into us, or that she kind of likes the man but doesn’t like to kiss on the first date, but we’re too worried about impressing her to pick up on those subtle female signals.

Eventually, this leads to a man either lunging forward for a kiss, perhaps killing the mood of an otherwise successful date or creating a really uncomfortable scene when he finds out the woman isn’t into him, or it creates a series of hesitations and uncomfortable silences which can’t impress a woman, and might turn her off.

Touching Her Hair – The Kiss Test Hair Test

David DeAngelo suggests another method of determining whether she’ll accept your kiss. This method involves a less obvious form of intimacy, but one which is almost certain to show whether she wants to kiss or not. Why is this the right thing to do?

You give her a chance to reject without causing a big scene.
You don’t have to worry about “making your move”.
It’s a middle ground of intimacy and a half-step towards a kiss.

To initiate the kissing test, what you do is lean into the woman (slightly and subtly) and touch the tips of her hair. When I say subtly, I mean you don’t call attention to it by remaining silent, but act natural and continue the conversation as is. This makes it appear almost as an involuntary sign of affection – not an attempt to initiate intimacy of some sort.

At the same time, keep an eye on her reaction. If she smiles, this is good. If she doesn’t smile– not so much. That’s a sign to hold off on the kiss, because she probably doesn’t want you invading her personal space.