How to Make Out
How to Make Out with a Girl for the First Time
Making out is slang for a certain kind of physical intimacy. The words imply that you’re not quite making love, but you’re doing something a little more than kissing or touching. In fact, making out is kind of like a combination of intimate touches and kisses.
“Making out” is most common in young adults who aren’t quite ready for sex but want to share their intimate connection. This isn’t to say that adults don’t “make out”–they do, but it is less of a big deal as you get older.
Think of a single kiss shared with someone you feel strongly about–while a single kiss can sometimes be thrilling and can cause people to fall in love, an extended session of kissing and touching (read: “making out”) involves a lot more variety than a standard kiss.
Making Out Around the World
There are lots of synonyms for “making out”, and they’re different in different countries. In the UK, making out is sometimes called “snogging”. In America, phrases like “sucking face” or “Frenching” are often used. But generally, if you say a couple is “making out”, people have some idea of what that looks like.
Here are a few ways to improve the intimacy of kissing, to push your physical intimacy with your partner to the next level.
Know What You Want
Before you make out with someone, you should be clear about your feelings for that person, how far you want to go physically, and any potential consequences of making out. Do you trust this person? Do you have strong feelings for them? Are you ready to kiss them intimately? This is the first step to a good makeout session–understanding your comfort level.
Take It Slow
Making out (like making love) is not normally something to rush through. Since making out involves a lot of coordination (knowing where to put your head, your hands, and your mouth) taking it slow is the best way to avoid potentially embarrassing situations like head-butting or elbowing your partner. Take your time and express your feelings with your kisses and touches. As you get more comfortable with your partner, your kisses can be a little less controlled, but at the beginning, taking it slow is ideal.
Make Eye Contact
While you’re kissing, take a break every now and then to make eye contact and connect emotionally with your partner. So much of our affection depends on this deep emotional bond, and you can’t form that bond with your eyes closed. If you’re making out with someone you love, making eye contact can reinforce the feelings that both of you know are already there. Remember, we kiss with our eyes as much as with our mouths.
Vary Your Kisses
A makeout session of any length will require kisses on other parts of the body besides just the mouth. Kissing your partner’s cheeks, forehead, ears, and neck may seem silly at first, but as you learn the sensitive parts of your partner’s body, you understand the importance of spreading your kisses around. You still need to move slowly — if your partner thinks you’re moving too fast, you could cause a conflict and put an end to the makeout session. Here’s a trick–kiss the corner of your partner’s mouth gently and then kiss down along your partner’s jaw. Let your mouth move around naturally from the neck to the forehead. This shows your partner that you are patient and that you love kissing him or her.
Touch Your Partner
You don’t just make out with your mouth–use your hands too. Run your fingers through your partner’s hair, along the scalp line and other sensitive parts of their head. The ear is also a sensitive part of the body, and gently brushing your partner’s ear with your fingers is a great way to get touching started.
Talk To Your Partner
Making out can also be a verbal pursuit–a little bit of verbal communication makes your makeout session more interesting. You don’t need to give your partner a book report or talk about politics, but a little bit of sexy small talk during a makeout session, especially while making eye contact, reassures your partner about your feelings. Saying little things like “This is amazing,” or “I love you,” or “I love to kiss you” will amp up the intimacy of the makeout session and turn it into an experience that your partner won’t soon forget. (See How to Talk to Women and How to Talk to Girls for more information about the conversational side of things.)
Keep It Light
Making out, like making love, is rarely perfect. Nothing happens like it does in the movies–funny sounds happen, people have bad breath, and occasionally you may bump your teeth into your partners’ teeth. When things like this happen, keep the mood light. Laugh about it, make eye contact, and start over. A light mood keeps the makeout session from getting too serious or out of hand, and when funny things happen, you just have to laugh. Your partner will thank you for it.
Making out is the next step after your first kiss or your first intimate touch. Done properly, making out can cement a relationship and give both partners a greater sense of their feelings for one another. Just remember to move slowly and keep it light, and you’ll be making out like a pro in no time.
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