Best Sex Tips
Best Sex Tips
The best sex tips are ones that lead to better sex for both you and your partner.
The best (and most important) sex tip is to practice safe sex. We’re not just talking about birth control, here. Safe sex means avoiding any of the unpleasant side-effects of sex, such as STDs or sexual violence. The term “safe sex” has expanded to include teaching women and men how to avoid being sexually abused or attacked. As unsexy as it may sound, the only way to have great sex is to make sure you’re having totally safe sex. Wear a condom or use birth control–there’s no better sex than sex that doesn’t lead to unwanted pregnancy, STDs, or other consequences.
Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s talk about ways to improve your sexual skill.
Best Sex Tips for Men
1. Understand The Clitoris
Most men have no idea how to touch a woman’s clitoris. This is a very sensitive piece of real estate, so too much pressure is just as bad (or maybe worse) than not enough. The only way to learn how to touch a woman’s clitoris is experience. Every woman is different–some women don’t even enjoy clitoral stimulation–so spend time listening to your lover’s body.
Quick Sex Tip: The clitoris is not just the part that you see. The entire length of the clitoris (which is about six inches deep in her body) is sensitive. Try making long, slow strokes up the length of the clitoris instead of just touching the “bud.”
2. Understand Breasts
Like the clitoris, men’s understanding of the erogenous potential of women’s breasts is very limited. For most women, the entire breast is sensitive to touch. Most men concentrate on just the nipple. According to readers of Cosmo, nipple stimulation takes a backseat to stimulation of the skin on and around the breast. The only way to learn how to touch your woman’s breasts is to try new things and see what works.
Quick Sex Tip: The skin just underneath the breasts is usually very sensitive. Try lightly running your tongue just underneath your woman’s breast and see just how sensitive her body is.
3. Change Tempos
Sex should not be the same “tempo.” Men get into patterns of thrusting–perhaps you start out slow, then build up a little, until finally you’re thrusting into your woman’s body quite hard. You should mix up this tempo so that you don’t get into a sexual rut. You should also change up your rhythms, because that’s what women say works for them.
Quick Sex Tip: The next time you’re thrusting into your woman in a steady rhythm, try stopping for a second, and beginning to very slowly thrust back and forth. Think of it as going from 60 mph to a dead stop, then teasing your way back up to speed.
4. Touch Her Body
You may love to use your fingers to stimulate your lover’s clitoris, and you’re probably an expert at touching her breasts or her ass during sex, but you may need to concentrate more on touching her all over. Women’s erogenous zones are varied, and you have to touch a woman’s body gently over time to learn exactly how she wants to be touched.
Quick Sex Tip: The next time your lover is undressing before sex, take your time and slowly trace your hands over her entire body. This is the best kind of foreplay–erotic but innocent.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Use Your Mouth
No, I’m not talking about oral sex. Too often, women complain that men don’t talk to them during sex. You don’t have to be a phone sex operator to throw some conversation into your sex life. Women want to talk in the bedroom just as much as they do at all other times, so don’t be afraid to tell your woman how good her body feels or how sexy she is.
Quick Sex Tip: Instead of asking your girlfriend something cheesy like “Do you like that?,” try telling her how you feel for a change.
Best Sex Tips for Women
1. Understand the Penis
A man’s penis is nearly as complex as your clitoris. Though he has fewer nerve endings, there are many different areas of sensitivity on the penis. Every penis is different, so you’ll need to spend time learning what your man likes in terms of sensations on his penis.
Quick Sex Tip: The most underrated sexual act is masturbation. Take your man’s penis into your hand and figure out how he likes to be touched. Don’t think of this as a “handjob”–it is an erotic act that can teach the two of you more about each other’s sexual desires.
2. Praise Your Man
Don’t feel silly about this–men respond to praise. Before you make your way into the bedroom, tell your man how sexy he is. Compliment him after the act for a particular sexual move. Ideally, your man is already doing this for you. Don’t neglect your man’s ego.
Quick Sex Tip: The next time you orgasm, try telling your man something like “You’re going to make me come” as opposed to saying nothing at all or, maybe worse, “I’m going to come.” The man needs to know that he’s involved in your orgasm.
3. Your Man Is Not Just a Penis
Men have as many erogenous zones as women, and the constant focus on his penis may be getting old. Many parts of your man’s body are sensitive to touch, so let your fingers and your mouth explore him and find out what he likes.
Quick Sex Tip: The next time your man is naked, start giving him a soft back rub that turns into more. He’ll appreciate the sex aspect of it, but you’ll have time to learn new spots that drive him crazy.
4. Be Spontaneous
The old stereotype says that women are spontaneous and men are not. The truth it, both partners needs to show some spontaneity to keep their sex life interesting.
Quick Sex Tip: The next time you’re watching TV together, innocently unzip your man’s pants and make your way towards oral sex. It’s spontaneous, sexy, and could lead to amazing lovemaking.
5. Touch Yourself
Newsflash–men think women’s bodies are sexy. There’s no shame in displaying your beautiful body for your man, and giving him a “show” in the bedroom could have all kinds of good consequences. If your man sees you pleasuring yourself, he’ll pick up some details on what you like. We can’t always communicate our own desires well, but displaying for your man what works is the best (and hottest) way to teach him.
Quick Sex Tip: If your man has trouble stimulating your clitoris (and don’t they all), it’s time to masturbate for him and literally show him how it should be done.
These sex tips are meant to improve the enjoyment you and your partner get from sex. The sex tips above are generalized–some people are better lovers than others and have already figured these tricks out. The overall point is that you should always be willing to try something new and explore each other’s bodies in the pursuit of better sex.
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