How to Talk to Women
Guy-Girl Conversation Tips
The best way to learn how to talk to women is to practice talking to women.
You’ll never get better if you shy away from conversations with random women you meet throughout the day. At first, the point shouldn’t be to impress girls or to get to know them really well. The point should be to get used to the idea of conversing with women.
Women aren’t much different than men. Just as men enjoy the company of the opposite sex, women enjoy attention from males. That doesn’t mean women who talk are attracted to you. Heck, even women who flirt with you aren’t necessarily attracted to you.
What it does mean is you should make it a habit to “chat up” the women you meet throughout the day, because knowing how to talk to women is the first big step in attracting women, getting their numbers and eventually going on dates with them.
Conversations with Women
When starting conversations with women, approach them as a friend or casual acquaintance would, without self-consciousness or hesitation. Be friendly, cut any tension with a shared joke, and never be sarcastic. (Sarcastic is great among friends who know you’re sense of humor, but for a woman who doesn’t know you, she’s far too likely to take your sarcasm the wrong way.) Remember to have a smile on your face and not let anything bother you.
If you happen to trip over your words, don’t worry about it. Women don’t expect men to be suave, and tripping up in conversation can be charming and endearing, if retrieved the right way. Get a wry or devilish smile on your face and joke about the slip-up. Laugh it off. You might even tell her, “Well, you know that wasn’t rehearsed.” Women hear rehearsed pickup lines all day long, so play against that stereotype, then move on.
Bad Feedback from Women
The averages are that you’ll get some negative reactions when you start talking to women. Let this roll off and keep smiling. The fact is, she might not be mad at you. Instead, you might have caught her at just the wrong moment or in the wrong mood. Maybe she just got off the phone with her ex. Maybe someone who walked away a moment ago insulted her. Maybe she’s had 3 jerks in 15 minutes walk up. You never know.
Don’t assume it’s your fault that she’s not reacting in a positive way. Even if she says something nasty and insulting, that isn’t your problem. Move on and forget about it. Guys who dwell on the negative when talking to women they don’t know are focusing on failure, not success, which is naturally going to lead to failure. No one woman should ruin your night.
Meeting women is a numbers game. No one is going to impress every woman, because girls are so different from one another. Meet as many women as possible, talk to any you’re attracted to, and you’ll gain the attraction of a few.
Talking with Women Tips – Guy Gets Girls
All of the above dating advice is actually from the GuyGetsGirl PDF ebook I’ve been reading this week. These are all good suggestions. One thing every pickup artist, seduction expert, dating adviser, or girl I know has in common is these two tips: practice makes perfect and focus on the positive.
Those might sound like truisms, but guys struggling with confidence in meeting and talking to girls tend to forget about both of those. Maybe they’re shy. Maybe they’re moody. Maybe they’re neurotic and don’t want to deal with rejection. Maybe they just don’t want to bother, or they are natural pessimists who think it’s doomed to failure. But guys who need dating advice tend to avoid practicing their guy-to-girl conversation skills, and they tend to focus on the negative aspects of meeting women.
Those are two fatal errors. Guy-Gets-Girl has it right. I have it right. And you know it.
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