How to Get Girls
Getting Women and Influencing People
Here’s an amazing piece of information on how women judge guys, which every man needs to know if he’s trying to learn how to get girls. This is about women judging you by your conversation and body language. If you want to know how to get girls to like you, then these are must-know techniques.
Seduction in Five Minutes
I’ve been reading about a survey of 87 single women willing to talk about what they use to judge a man when they first meet him in a bar, a social setting or even at work.
First of all, these women claim the old adage about girls “knowing whether they’ll sleep with a man within 5 seconds” is largely true. Though just over 25% say that’s true, 1 out of 4 women judge men in that way.
Just as important to know is that roughly 30% of these women said they knew within the first minute whether they would sleep with this theoretical guy, while another 20-25% said they knew within 5 minutes, and another 8% knew with 15 minutes. In all, some 87% of the women responding said they knew within the first fifteen minutes of meeting a man whether they would sleep with him or not.
Forget the first evening. Forget the first date. Those first 15 minutes are uber-important, and nearly 4 of out 5 women make their decision about a man within the first 5 minutes of a meeting. It goes without saying that the following information is crucial if you want to know how to get girls to want you.
Confidence and Conversation – The Bookends of Success
Overwhelmingly, these women were looking for one of two things when making this judgment: either a man who is comfortable in his surroundings or a man who can carry on a good conversation with a woman. If you want to pick up women, you need to work on those two aspects of your personality more than any other two traits. Obviously, these two elements of your single life dovetail (confidence), though they do involve two different signals to women: body language and verbal skills.
Having Confidence with Women
When talking to women, you have to project confidence to her. There are two key ways to do this that these women are picking up one, seeming comfortable in your surroundings and your ability to engage in meaningful conversation. “Meaningful” is the key word, because anyone can talk about the weather or sports or their favorite XBox game. What you need to convey is that you are aware of your surroundings, that you are listening to her, and that you’re comfortable talking about what’s important to her (but without seeming to make an effort to do so).
Over 50% of women surveyed believe the most important trait a man can show in these pivotal 5 minutes is being comfortable in his surroundings. A large part of this is being “comfortable in your own skin”, knowing who you are and being fine with that. Another part is not looking out of place. If you feel out of place, learn to fake it well.
At the same time, nearly 50% of women being surveyed wanted to know their man could engage in meaningful conversation, and that means listening to her and responding to what she says in a way that isn’t canned or robotic. You have to show you’re listening and reply in a stimulating way. Humor is good, but the right kind and the right amount of humor is essential.
While you’re trying to show you aren’t meek or intimidated in a social setting, don’t overdo it, though. Only one-percent of women was attracted to a man who was bossy or overbearing. Only two-percent were (mainly) attracted to a man who makes material displays of his success, and none found the key element of attraction to be someone who dominates either the conversation or the room. In other words, guys who try to be the center of attention don’t come off much better than wallflowers. You have to be confident, not overconfident, and you have to fit into environment, not dominate the setting.
Instant Attraction – What a Girl Wants
Finally, these same ladies were asked what they immediately looked for in a man when deciding whether to give him a chance or not. The overwhelming majority (over 60%) looked for confidence. Other common factors were a nice smile in second place, signs of success or wealth in third place, good looks in fourth place, a nice face in fifth place, and a nice body in sixth place.
So looks are important, with 17-30% of the women in some way considering a body feature (looks, face, body, smile) to be the most important aspect. But even if you aren’t Brad Pitt, there’s good news in there. One, that leaves 70% of the women out there looking (mainly) for something else. Two, nearly half of those who responded (13%) weren’t so much looking for a great physique or chiseled features as they were looking for something as simple as a nice smile. Smiling is easy to do, and having a “nice smile” isn’t that much harder.
What’s more, less than 10% were looking for men showing off their wealth. There seems to be a small segment of girls who are looking for the brash, showy guy who is overbearing in trying to show his wealth, status, and power, but it’s a bad strategy if you want to be a natural at picking up women. This method seems to turn off a lot more women than it impresses – somewhere between 90 to 98% percent of the sample.
How to Get Girls to Notice You
Instead, if you want to learn how to get girls to notice you, play the percentages by working on building your confidence and improving your personal body language, and then improving your conversation skills by learning how to talk to women. The good news is there are tells in your body language you can work on and fix, so that’s something you can work on today. Being able to talk to women is a little harder to fix, but you can learn tips and techniques for meeting women that will help, and practice over time can help. In other words, talk to girls at every opportunity – not just the ones you’re attracted to, but all women. You’ll get better at it.
Finally, men who know how to get women have confidence. Getting confidence isn’t as easy as it sounds, at least until you start to have success with girls. But improving your body language and a few other conversational tips lets you give off the impression of confidence until you have enough success with women that you won’t have to fake it anymore. Once again, the more you interact with girls around you, the more confidence you’ll have, and the better impression you’ll make in those all-important first five minutes.
To learn more about the information I’m citing, learn about the Guy-Gets-Girl website and their dating PDF ebooks.
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