How to Be Cool with a Girl
Being “cool” has many definitions. Some would say that being cool around a girl just means being level-headed. Still others would insist that you have to wear the right clothes, drive the right car, slick your hair back, and pull all “the right moves.”
Rather than try and tell you what is cool and isn’t–far be it from us to tell you if you’re cool or not–let’s cover some things that you should never do if you want to look cool in front of a girl. Think of these as ten “dont’s”–things you should never do around a girl if you want her to think you’re cool.
10. Don’t be something you’re not.
Trying to imitate something or someone else is the weakest possible move with a girl. Girls can smell fakeness, and it is maybe the least attractive thing in a girl’s eyes. The basic advice here is: “Be yourself,” but that doesn’t mean you can’t try to improve yourself. It does mean that you shouldn’t try to make up for shortcomings with posing and flexing.
9. Don’t talk about yourself.
If you want to impress a girl and make her think you’re cool, let her prattle on and on about herself for hours. If you simply avoid talking about yourself and let the girl fill the empty space with her own chatter, you’ll look sophisticated, mysterious, and sensitive all at once. Seriously–never ever talk about yourself, especially when you first meet a girl.
8. Don’t “put the moves” on her.
Only a guy would think that making a move the first time you meet a girl is a good idea. Girls don’t want your grubby hands all over them–at least until after you’ve impressed them in some other way. “Putting the moves” on a girl is useless anyway–she’ll let you know when she wants you to touch her, and doing it before then will look pathetic and totally uncool.
7. Don’t use pickup lines.
This may seem like funny advice coming from a writer for Pickup-Lines.org, but let’s be honest. Good pickup lines are few and far between, and good pickup line delivery is an art that takes time to master. Girls see through bad pickup lines easier than they spot a good sale. Unless you’re a pickup line master, save your cheesy lines for a second or third date.
6. Don’t dress to impress.
Girls will always have better fashion sense than you. If you try to pull off a new look (skinny jeans, etc) without practice, you will probably look like an idiot. “Dressing up” to meet a girl is sort of effeminate, and anyway you’re setting the standard a little too high for yourself. If you dress like an Italian model the first time you meet her, you won’t have any luck pulling off your Starter jacket and denim on your second date.
5. Don’t drop names.
Trying to connect with a girl by talking about her friends that you know (or her family, teachers, etc) is a weak move. But I’ve seen so many guys walk up to a girl and try to connect with her by saying “Oh, you’re so-and-so’s friend, right?” that I have to pass this advice on. This makes you seem like a player, and by the way, the girl you just met will definitely go right to your common friend and get all the dirt on you. Bad move.
4. Don’t talk about sex.
There’s an old piece of advice handed down to me by my uncle, and his uncle before him, etc. No matter how good you are in bed, no matter how big your manhood, as soon as you brag about it, it can never be good enough for the girl. The best thing you can do is play DOWN your sexual abilities, and even that should wait until a later date. Bragging about your sexual skill is pathetic and guarantees the girl will laugh at you.
3. Don’t brag.
While we’re on the topic, you should avoid bragging about anything. Remember–let her talk about herself, and don’t talk about yourself at all. That includes bragging about your sex life, your car, your job, or anything else about yourself.
2. Don’t get intoxicated.
Having a beer or two when you meet a girl is a good idea. It relaxes you and makes you seem normal. Having fifteen or twenty beers, however, is as good as buying a one-way ticket to Loserville. Intoxicated people say dumb things, do dumber things, and usually go home alone to puke in a bucket by the side of their bed. Put down the beer and let the magic begin.
1. Don’t follow online advice.
Finally–don’t follow advice you get online. Sounds funny coming from us, right? The truth it, every person is different, and most of us know the best way to behave around girls instinctively. If you crowd your head with too much nonsense about how to behave, especially generic online advice, you’ll probably never get the girl to begin with.
Being cool around girls is hard, especially for those of us that haven’t had much experience with it. If you follow the above ten pieces of advice, you’re far more likely to get a girl’s phone number or (even better) a promise of a date. Be cool, don’t brag, and let the girl fill the room with her own words. There’s nothing cooler than that.
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