How to Attract Women
Basic Laws of Girl Attraction
I wanted to discuss the philosophy behind how to attract women according to the methods of the Guy-Gets-Girl PDF ebooks I’ve been reading this week.
These books discuss tips for attracting women from the perspective of someone who’s been on the receiving end of male attention all her life – a woman.
Male Potential – Energy and Drive
One of the basic ideas is that women look for the potential in men. So even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt or you don’t have a million dollars, women are going to be sizing you up for the potential you have. When a girl looks at you, she wants to see your drive, your energy, and your masculine vitality.
That’s one reason why it’s important you look your best. Notice I used the phrase “Look Your Best” – not look great. Even if you are overweight and balding, this is not a reason for you to give up on trying to look your best when going out. When you dress up, cut your hair, shave, shower, and smell nice. These are signals to a woman that you have the energy to do all those things. It’s not (just) about aesthetics.
That’s also a reason why women are so interested in a man’s job, education, car, house, and so on. Sure, they size you up by these measurables for all the material purposes, but these are also a good gauge of your drive and determination in life. If you have a good job and education, this not only means you’re more likely to make more right now, but it shows you have drive and ambition. Even if you’re swimming in debt, having a nice vehicle and a good house shows you have the drive to attain those things.
In other words, you are making a statement to the world that you’re a man on the make, a guy with a plan. These are male qualities.
Having the outward appearance of drive, determination, and energy helps create an aura about you. According to Guy Gets Girl, improvement breeds confidence, just as success at attracting women naturally breeds confidence. The idea is to act like you have a plan long enough to figure out what your plan is. That goes for life, and it especially goes for your dating life.
The idea is that you highlight your potential for everyone to see.
Attracting Women – Constructing Your Confidence
The most important advice I can give you in attracting women is to build your confidence. Now I know this is easier said than done, but GuyGetsGirl points out an interesting concept that most men lacking confidence don’t consider – when a woman is looking for your potential, she’s focusing on the positives. She isn’t looking at you to find faults, but to find points in your favor.
Men without confidence focus on the exact opposite. They tell themselves “I don’t have enough money” or “I’m no male model” or “I need to lose weight“, but that isn’t what they should be focused on. Sure, you want to improve yourself. Go to the gym and work on advancing your career. But when you’re out on the town, chunk all that aside and play confidently with the cards you have in the deck. Don’t let the daily frustrations and doubts creep in. Go for it.
For instance, Tiffany Taylor of the Basic Guy-Gets-Girl Guide points out that the worst thing a man with thinning hair can do is the comb-over. This isn’t going to fool anyone, and it instantly tells every woman in the place that you’re self-conscious about your baldness. Act like you don’t care about your baldness. Either shave it all off like Bruce Willis would do, or act like you don’t even notice. This is who you are; you’re proud of it; women are just going to have to deal with it. It’s an attractive quality to know what you’re about.
How to Attract Women – Don’t Change for Them
That’s the final point I want to make today. Men who try to conform to what women want are not going to attract women. As they say in sports, “Let the game come to You“.
In a dating situation, ‘Let the game come to you’ means you know exactly who you are and what you’re about. You know the type of women you’re attracted to. You aren’t going to settle. You aren’t going to change. Women have to adjust to your opinions and ideas, not the other way around.
You exude confidence. You create an aura. Conforming to what you think a woman wants is weak. The best that man can hope for is to be “just friends”. Avoid the friend zone at all costs, dude.
How to Attract Women
At least that’s the philosophy of the crew at Guy-Gets-Girl and the Platinum Positivity website. Tomorrow, I’ll start to discuss the intermediate courses these people offer, which should be exciting.
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