Dating for Sex
Dating for Sex
There are lots of different kinds of dating. There’s dating with friends–going to movies, having a burger afterwards, and enjoying each other’s company. There’s casual dating, where you may or may not actually be into the person across the table from you. Let’s not even talk about awkward first dates.
The final form of dating is dating for sex. What is dating for sex?
Dating for sex means going on a date with the intention of taking your date to bed. We’re not talking about “getting lucky”–where you find yourself in bed after a date even when you didn’t expect to. Dating for sex means looking for a sex partner, asking them on a date, and doing everything in your power to get laid.
Finding a Date for Sex
The most difficult part of dating for sex is finding the right partner. Whether you’re a man or a woman, it can sometimes be difficult to find someone else who is out there dating for sex. The stereotype says that all men want to get down and dirty on the first date, that women are more reserved and less likely to put out from the get-go. Fortunately for the person who is dating for sex, this isn’t always true.
There are three specific places where you can easily find a dating-for-sex partner.
1. Bars
While you’ll rarely hear dating advice experts telling you to hunt down your next date in a bar, when you’re dating just for sex, the bar might be your own personal Xanadu. The reason why most dating advice suggests you stay far away from bars is that hookups at bars tend to lead to one-night stands or (at best) short-term relationships.
Fortunately for the sex dater, a one-night stand or occasional hook-up may be all you need. Head to the bar and make eye contact with every attractive person you’d be willing to wake up with. You’ll be between the sheets before you can say “Walk of Shame.”
2. The Internet
Before you cringe or offer up some horror story about your best friend that was assaulted after meeting someone online–wake up. This is not 1999. Online dating is pretty much acceptable these days–more and more people from different social classes are finding love (or at least lust) online, so the pool of potential sex dates is far better than it was even five years ago.
While I wouldn’t go trolling for sex on Craigslist, checking out any of the hundreds of dating sites (some geared toward specific cultures, lifestyles, even political beliefs) could find you that perfect sex dating partner you’ve been dreaming of.
3. Your Social Circle
If you don’t relish the idea of looking for a sex date in a bar or meeting some anonymous online personality, it is time to look into your own group of friends (and friends-of-friends) for possible sex dates. That close friend from work that you’ve always felt a spark for? Go ahead and ask them out, but do so in a flirtatious way that suggests what you want to happen that night. If you don’t have game, this could be the most difficult part of your sex date search.
Dating for sex is nothing new. People have been hitting the bars and clubs for decades looking for little more than a bed partner. The difference between a sex dater and those jerks picking up younger women and throwing them away like paper plates is that you are saying from the outset that all you’re into is sex.
So hit a bar, check out online classifieds, or smile that special smile at a co-worker and try out dating for sex. It isn’t as seedy or dangerous as you may think, and a one-night stand can be the spark that reignites your sex life.
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