Dating Advice for Men
Dating Advice for Men Over 30 (or 40, or 50–It Makes No Difference)
When it comes to dating, women have a clear advantage. They are better at communicating, they’re smarter, and they’re better-looking than men.
Men over 30 can level the playing field, though, if they just follow a few basic dating tips. So can men over 40 or 50, and if you’re younger than 30, well, most of these dating tips from and by women apply to you too.
Learn to Flirt
For the most part, men are awful at flirting. Flirting is very important to a relationship, especially in its early stages. A first date is the perfect stage for flirting, and it comes in so many varieties they’re impossible to list here.
Think of every moment as an opportunity for flirting. There’s a thin line to walk here between an appropriate amount of flirting and coming on too strong. In general, your conversation is almost always a chance to display your affection and see if she’ll flirt back. Eye contact is good, as is occasional physical contact.
Flirting will come natural once you’ve done it long enough. But fake it ’til you make it. No one’s born a flirt, so get out there and try it out.
Establish a Connection Early
If you’re on a first date with a beautiful woman, you won’t get anywhere with her without making some kind of connection.
The good news is, you can connect over any number of things. As you get through the “small talk” phase of your first date, think about any connections the two of you may have naturally. Maybe you were born in the same state, same part of the country, or something along those lines. Finding common ground is crucial to establishing an early connection and avoiding awkward silence or strangeness later in the date.
Under no circumstances should you fake a connection. Women will always find out. If you tell her that she has the same name as your mother, you’ll have to eat your words when the two of them meet some day. You get the idea. Form a connection as early as possible, but don’t shoot your mouth off and regret your lie later.
Figure Out If She’s Interested
Women are experts in determining if a man is interested in them. She knows before you say a single word whether or not you’re undressing her with your eyes. Guys don’t have as easy a time of this, and this is the main reason why they’re at a dating disadvantage.
Luckily, you can teach yourself to recognize an interested woman. She will do one of three things if she’ interested in you.
- She will make small physical contact with you.
- She will cover her mouth when she smiles or laughs.
- She will “expose” more of her skin through body language.
This last one is tricky to recognize, but if you see a woman bending forward just enough to show more cleavage, or opening her arms in such a way to expose part of her chest, I guarantee you she’s interested. Women and men do things like this without noticing it, but if you pay attention, you can see an interested woman every time.
Express Your Interest in Her
Now that you’ve seen some signs of her interest in you, you need to be sure and display your own interest. We already said that women are better than men at this, so chances are she can already tell you’re interested.
The key here is to make sure you don’t give off the wrong signals. Try not to cross your arms or use other “aggressive” or “withdrawn” body language. Women read those things like books. Also, try smiling into her eyes a little, or (if you’re bold) outright telling her that she’s beautiful, etc. Go for it. What do you have to lose?
Ensure a Second Date
The key to getting a second date is to make the first date memorable. Maybe you’ve got a great sense of humor and you keep her laughing all night. Maybe you did some snooping and figured out her favorite type of food or her favorite bar for late night drinks–anything you can do to make sure she doesn’t forget your first date will go a long way toward earning you a second date.
Men are easy to manipulate–but so are women. If you follow the above advice, you’ll be a dangerous date.
See also:
- Guy Gets Girl Dating Advice
- How to Get a Girl to Like You Advice
- Dating Tips and Advice for Men
- Free Dating Advice for Men Who Like Women
- Seduction Advice for Men
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