Christian Dating Advice
Christian Dating Advice for Men, Women, and Teenagers
The best place to look for Christian dating advice for men and women is God’s handbook for His people–the Bible.
Here are powerful Christian dating lessons taken directly from God’s word.
There are two kinds of dating advice from the Bible–direct references to relationships between men and women, and lessons from the Bible that don’t relate directly to dating but can be adapted to give us an understanding of God’s will for our dating life.
Here are some things the Bible tells us specifically that we should avoid when dating.
False Christians
We all know them–people who go to church every week but don’t seem to truly believe. Their behavior outside of the church building reveals their true nature.
The Bible describes these people in 2 Timothy 3:5 as people who have ” . . . a form of godliness but deny its power.” The verse goes on to advise Christians to “Have nothing to do with them.”
This is good advice directly from God, and it’s advice that we can live by. What God is saying about the falsely religious is that they are poisonous to true believers.
Non-Christians
This is a hot-button topic for teenagers in youth groups at churches around the world. Should Christians date people who aren’t believers?
Many people point to Old Testament verses about attaching yourself to non-believers, such as Deuteronomy 7:3-4 which says:
“You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.”
This seems like a pretty clear message to Christians–stay away from non-believers or face God’s wrath.
The problem with using a verse from Deuteronomy is that we don’t live in the same world as the writers of the Old Testament. Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross was sufficient to relieve us of the old laws. We now live in a state of grace–Jesus even says that “All things are clean” for us.
Some say that our state of grace compels us to spread the word about Christ and his eventual return to Earth, and sometimes dating a non-believer is the greatest opportunity you have to witness to your partner and his or her family.
Opinion on this topic is pretty divided, so ask your pastor for help with this problem.
Here are some more dating-specific verses pulled from the Bible.
Pre-Marital Sex and Kissing
In 1 Corinthians 7:2, Paul says “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” This is Paul plainly stating that sex outside marriage is “immoral”, and the best cure for immorality is marriage.
Other verses of the Bible tell us exactly how God feels about immoral acts outside of marriage, such as Acts 15:20 which compares sex outside marriage to drinking blood. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 says Christians should “avoid sexual immorality” to make themselves more like God.
Verse after verse in the New Testament makes it clear that the Church’s position on pre-marital sex is that you should abstain from it.
Deciding how this relates to kissing is a personal choice. This is another good topic to get advice from your pastor on.
Christian Dating
In 2 Peter 2:20, we learn that if Christians “have escaped the corruption of the world by knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and are again entangled in it and overcome, they are worse off at the end than they were at the beginning.” This tells us that God’s way is different from the world’s way, and suggests that “dating” is morally incorrect. The Bible supports marriage and not “dating”. Some Christians take this to mean that casual dating is a no-no, and these people tend to arrange marriages rather young. For the most part, though, Christians date like non-Christians, attempting to avoid sexual immorality along the way.
God’s word tells us everything we need to know about dating. The next time you need Christian dating advice, open your Bible and talk to God.
See also:
- Guy Gets Girl Dating Advice
- How to Get a Girl to Like You Advice
- Dating Advice and Wisdom for Men
- Free Dating Advice for Men, Women, and Teenagers
- How to Meet Women on Facebook
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